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Monday, November 22, 2010

How Can You Attain Peace In Your Own Home?

How can you attain peace in your own home?


bingkee said...

There's this post from Lori Laws' blog that I really enjoyed....it is about kid's prayers that remind me of this thought-provoking question;
"Dear God,it's hard to love everyone in the world. There are only 4 people in our family and I'm having a hard time loving all of them."

Amrita said...

The points you have listed are excellent Mel.
I found an article I would like to share as it echoe s my viewpoint.

It isn't enough to talk about peace, one must believe it. And it isn't enough to believe in it, one must work for it. - Eleanor Roosevelt

Peace. Just saying the word brings a sense of calmness to your soul.

Peace--that often illusive ideal for every family--is something that we all yearn for. The Bible tells us to "seek peace and pursue it" (Ps. 34:14).

Peace in your family starts with you. You must recognize that peace is an inside job. It is a decision you make, not something you wait to 'feel'. Brian Tracy, said, "Set peace of mind as your highest goal and organize your entire life around it." You can learn to remain peaceful no matter what is happening in your life. Here are four mind-changing ideas to help you 'set' your peace of mind.

1. Stop trying to figure everything out. To have peace, you first must understand and accept that you won't have all the answers. Don't let yourself get overwhelmed. Worry and anxiety happen when you spend today's strength and energy trying to figure out tomorrow's answers. All that does is sap your strength, so you won't have the emotional and physical energy you need to deal with today.

2. Realize the things that upset YOU don't necessarily upset those around you. Your spouse may be quite content to have newspapers scattered across the kitchen table, and socks on the floor. Your kids don't mind that toys are everywhere, their faces are dirty or their rooms are a mess.

Find a compromise (co-promise) to de-stress your situations and restore peace. Shut the door to the messy room so you don't have to see it. Ask everyone to spend just five minutes every day to de-clutter your living areas. If possible, do it together to build a sense of cohesiveness and cooperation.

3. Don't freak out. Most of your stressors are just a combination of life's little nuisances. Ask yourself, "Will it still matter next Tuesday?" In other words, how big a deal is it anyway? Is it life-threatening or devastating? Learn to categorize your complaints. Then, like any good planner, focus on the important issues and leave the lesser ones alone. Practice planned neglect.

4. Does it seem like you are the one who does everything? That may be true - but then, you are the one who WANTS everything done. If you want something done, recognize that you are doing it FOR YOURSELF, not for anyone else. They don't care as deeply about it as you do.

Time is the most valuable asset you have, and it's not a renewable resource. Do not waste your emotional and physical energy on things that ultimately don't matter. I'm not advocating a messy house, just a lived-in one. Give your family the gift of your time and attention, not nagging and complaining. Sow peace, and you will receive more peace in your home.

We all know there are two forces at work in the world - good and evil. It is up to you to stand against strife, find ways to overcome it and maintain the peace that God promised. After all, He told you to stand, even after you have tried everything else.

Make a quality decision to seek peace in every situation. To have a peaceful home, you must start with a peaceful you.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Bingkee,
It's a very funny anecdote if only it does not hurt. We must learn to adjust to individual differences so that we can really attain lasting peace. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you always.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Amrita,
This sums up all about maintaining peace at home. Thanks for sharing it with me and my readers. I'm sure they appreciate that too. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you all always.

Kathy said...

Communication is probably one of the things that keeps our home peaceful. If there's something wrong we talk about it, instead of fight...


Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Kathy,
You are so right. As long as your lines of communications are open, you can resolve whatever conflicts that will come your way. Just focus on the positive things in your relationship and you will avoid conflicts. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you all always.

Bluebirdy said...

Bingkee, so awesome that you also follow Lori Laws! I was friends with her before she started the blog and her own website called Christians with Disabilities, before her book got published. She's amazing.

The way our home stays peaceful is that we never raise our voice and we never say anything hurtful to each other. If there is a problem, we discuss it calmly.